She tried to get full custody of the kids but did not get it because he is a good guy and she is insane.So they split the kids 50/50 and he gives her everything: house, country club membership, child support, etc. He said that he tried to reason with her but she was insane and threatening him with knives in front of the kids.He is an oncologist - and a very good one - and she is basically just a rich housewife who goes through a bunch of nannies and au pairs because they always get fed up with her instability. Very far away.broken detector wrote: I know a thread on this topic was posted a few years ago, but I'm wondering if guys can chime in on how long it took for them to realize something was wrong and if there were early warning signs they just didn't pick up on.I am not sure whether she disclosed that she would like to have sex with her parents within the 3 month time frame or not. Some red flags are obvious, but a lot of people can do a great job hiding their negative traits to the point few people would suspect that anything is amiss.So he gets married and this woman tries to sue his new wife for "alienation of affection," but the case gets dropped because the new wife didn't even live in the same state when they were married and didn't even meet the husband until they had been divorced for over two years.So she tries to sue the lady who she initially thought he cheated with but the statute of limitations was up. She ruined her life and has tried to ruin other people's lives.Other than listening to the person tell their life-story, what else can a person go off of early on in the relationship if the person doesn't exhibit any obvious red flags? He was fat and short so he thought she was cute (she wasn't) and she was super rich so there were some perks.
This is certainly consistent with my dating experience. People can only hide their negative traits for about 3 months, which is why you should not get too attached to someone until you've known them at least that long.broken detector wrote: I know a thread on this topic was posted a few years ago, but I'm wondering if guys can chime in on how long it took for them to realize something was wrong and if there were early warning signs they just didn't pick up on.
He said that he doesn't think she is a danger to the children and basically feels bad for her.